Month: April 2016

“Role Playing” your Way to Success

Act as if you already are who you want to be. Have you ever heard the phrase, “Wear the clothes of the job you want to have?”   In the literal sense, it means that you should dress to impress, or another famous quote, “Dress for Success.”  Its an easy concept.  Wear a suit to work and you will be seen as professional. Wear casual clothes and you will be seen as a cubicle worker.  When you get less than 30 seconds to make a first impression, putting your best foot forward can make the difference, and even prevent negative opinions to be created before the interview has even begun.  People who dress to impress are often more in line for promotions, more likely to be hired on an interview, and more likely to be respected by their customers. The phrase has a deep metaphorical meani...

One Nation, Divisible by Social Media

Years ago when I went to college, I had an American Government class. The first day of class, back in 1999, my teacher came in. I was very excited about this class, being interested in learning more than they never really did teach us in high school about the way the government actually works. They spent so much time on the colonization of the United States, its formation, the wars, that when it came to current day events we always seemed just never get to that part. The internet wasn’t much more diverse than a set of good encyclopedias at this point, and your major headlines still came much faster in the newspaper. Anyway, back to American Government… My first day of class I was in for a shock when my teacher approached the front of the lecture hall filled with over 700 eager ...

Boosting Your Positive Attitude By Using Your Sense of Smell

Our senses are how we interact with the world. One of our most often ignored senses is the sense of smell. In our over-sanitized world smells are undesirable. Commercials tell us to Febreeze our curtains and buy lemon-scented garbage bags. We disinfect everything and cover our children using pocket-sized hand sanitizer. Western civilization has foregone scent in favor of extreme cleanliness, but to what end? Studies have shown that our world doesn’t smell the way it used to. In one study out of the University of Virginia, the radius of the smell of flowers was measured. They discovered that the smell of flowers is travelling far shorter distances than in previous history. Industrial pollutants in the air are cancelling out the smells. While their potential distance is up to half a mile, in...

Learn the “Magic Ratio” to having a Positive and Successful Relationship

Think about the last encounter you had with your partner/significant other. Was it a positive encounter or a negative one? Did you kiss him/her goodbye or did you complain that they didn’t put away their laundry? If you could quantify every interaction in your relationship, it would fall on either the positive or the negative side. The key to a happy relationship is to keep those interactions in balance. Psychologists have determined that the magic ratio of having a successful relationship is to outnumber your negative moments with positive ones on a 5:1 scale. Using the magic ratio, psychologists have been able to accurately predict the success or failure of marriages. After observing couples for 15 minutes and counting their positive or negative reactions, researchers were able to ...

Fake It ‘Til You Make It: The Psychology of Positive Action

“You do not run from a bear because you are afraid of it, but rather become afraid of the bear because you run from it.” –William James Certain human reactions are innate. We feel happy therefore we smile. We feel sad and frown. We become worried, we raise our brows. Our feelings cause reactions. Surprisingly, the reverse is also true. Our actions can cause feelings. Smiling causes happiness. Frowning causes sadness. Furrowed brows cause worry. 19th Century psychology pioneer William James was the first to hypothesize the correlation between action and emotion. His basic idea has far-reaching implications. Research has shown that more than just simple emotions are affected by actions. Our habits, our relationships, even our fundamental personality can be changed by adopting different actio...

Why a Cluttered Home Leads You to a Cluttered Mind

The average home contains over 300,000 items. Every item in your home is sucking away your time, energy, and money. You are the CEO of your home and you are in charge of 300,000 employees. All of those items need to be organized, sorted, stored, displayed, or used. That’s 300,000 decisions. Most of us have a difficult enough time deciding what to have for dinner. Keeping all of these items creates untold stress on our lives. De-cluttering is an anxiety-filled word. People get anxious just hearing it. They picture precious memories being thrown into dumpsters, valuables being lost, and time being spent that they don’t have. The anxiety paralyzes them and they find themselves unable to start the process of eliminating items from their home. It doesn’t have to be an overnight overhaul. Someti...

The Road to Good health is Paved with Good Intestines | Ask Trainer Dave

A healthy body yields a Positive Attitude! It’s very hard to see when we’re not there, but an optimistic / positive mindset and great health most definitely go hand-in-hand. You just can’t have one without the other.  Think about it! How could we have a positive mindset if: We’re tired? We’re hungry? We’re in pain? We don’t like the way we look or feel? When I meet with a personal training or health coaching client for the first time, they are often coming to me after years of inactivity and a hopeless look in their eyes of complete confusion.  “I don’t know how I got here or where to start…” … is usually the look on their faces, or the words coming out of their mouths. Most commonly, the fat loss, they so desperately ...

How to Forgive Yourself For Mistakes

Self-forgiveness is about allowing yourself to move forward once you’ve acknowledged your folly and done your best to make amends. If you’ve done something hurtful—lied to your partner, offended a friend, belittled a co-worker—the “let it go” advice when it comes to your guilty ruminating is naive, if not unethical. Shame, sorrow and self-blame may be warranted after you’ve wronged someone. But it’s not healthy—or productive—to hold on to those feelings forever. Self-forgiveness has been related to lower levels of anxiety, mood disturbances, hostility and rumination. Whether or not the other person forgives you, can you forgive yourself? To be clear, self-forgiveness is not about assuaging your guilt or sidestepping responsibility. (Although if you’re the brooding, overthinking type, it’s ...

5 Tips to a Daily Positive Outlook

Its pretty easy to see that those with an optimistic outlook on life are the ones who usually find the most success.  Negative attitudes impact your life in a bad way and slow you down.  Sometimes in order to get ahead in life, change is necessary.  This change may happen mentally, physically, personally, or professionally, or all of the above.   There are many things you can do every day to get your attitude on the right track. Here are five tips that help release negative mentality and become more positive: Express gratitude. One of the easiest ways to increase your positivity is to express gratitude. Being thankful for what you currently have immediately releases any negativity that you might be holding onto. Gratitude instantly puts you in touch with the feeling of love. Where love res...

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