It’s that time of year again. Time for New Years Resolutions. We all make them. Not sure what it is but there’s something about a new year resembling a clean slate and a good starting point to make a change or climb a mountain in your life you’d always hoped to climb. Out of the millions of NYE Resolutions made, to lose weight, quit smoking, live a healthier lifestyle, start a business, travel, or anything else you can think of, while made with the best and most honest intentions, so many unfortunately fail right at the gate. But there’s one big reason for this and a few things you can do to make sure you have the best shot at success, and we’d like to share them with you!
First of all, before you even make a New Years resolution, you need to decide on a reasonable and realistic resolution. Rome was not built in a day and your new years resolutions will not be achieved in so short a time either. If you don’t know your limits and decide upon goals that are reasonable and fit within the restraints of your lifestyle you are never going to achieve them. For instance, if your goal is to work out every day, but you’re a full time mother of three who also works a part time job, chances are you don’t have the time to accomplish this. You’ll leave yourself exhausted and tired and doomed to fail. Instead make realistic goals such as working out once a week and increasing it to twice a week or more under a set deadline. If it becomes to much, sticking with the 1-2 times.
The main reason why your New Years Resolutions Fail:
Your goals are poorly defined. Why is this bad? Because goals that are vague become abstract, long-term, and lack all sense of urgency that will allow you to more forward with them the minute the clock strikes 12. If you don’t know what your goals are, you’re likely not to reach them, or even go for them. You can say, “I want to learn to play the piano” this year, but what does that mean? Means as long as you learn to play before the end of the year, you don’t need to start now, so you start in mid-june, realize how difficult it is and that it’s going to take much more than a few months to learn how to play… you get overwhelmed and quit. Or you may learn the keys, but is that what you wanted or to learn a full song?
Follow these 5 steps to make sure you clearly define your New Years Resolution to ensure the best chance at success.
- Make it very specific.
To clearly define your goals they need to be very specific. To learn all the basic chords and a few simple songs and exercises.
- Make your resolution goals measurable.
Your goals also need to be measurable. You’re not just going to “practice” you’re going to practice “3 nights a week.” My creating a specific measurable goal you create a plan of action for yourself.
3. Make sure your goals are achievable and realistic.
Your goals need to be a realistic task within your current lifestyle. Maybe practicing 3 nights a week would be too much for you between work and children to find time… then you need to decide upon one or two nights. If it’s not realistic or achievable you will quit your goal all together and fail your resolution.
4. Make sure your goal is relevant and leads to a larger one. Let learning to play the piano be a segue into learning to play a song, or several songs on a piano. Having your short-term resolution seed into larger term goals will keep you motivated as you progress.
5. Make sure your resolution can be achieved in SHORT TERM.
If your goal takes too long to achieve you may lose steam before you get there. Make sure you pick a goal with an attainable short-term timeline. But on the flip-side, make sure that you have a long enough timeline that your goal is worth achieving…
Good luck, and Happy New Years!